Let's face it: There's no real rulebook to these kinds of things, and why should there be? The adult industry is ever changing, with boundaries varying from person to person; I can't (and frankly, I won't) speak for anyone else in regards to what is 'standard', and it would be an impossible task to attempt to write a rulebook that encompasses the procedures of how everyone operates.
Even still, I can't help but feel that there are plenty of things that are general enough to touch upon that can help to simplify the booking process, regardless of what that may look like. Though I've tried to simplify my own procedures as much as possible, I still find myself sending newbies the New Client Guide from Tryst all too frequently. While I think it's an excellent resource overall, I have yet to see a guide that helps explain the actual process in depth.
With all of that in mind, I felt that it was due time to finally write a guide of my own that answers some questions that Tryst's client guide didn't, addressing industry faux pas, and just generally helping any potential newbies avoid shooting themselves in the foot during the booking process.
Your First Impression
When reaching out to a companion for the first time, your first impression can be crucial. Adding a friendly 'Hello {companion name}!' and a polite 'Excited to hear back from you soon'! may seem small, but it's the kind of etiquette that often gets overlooked in an email for these kinds of meetings.
Avoid asking any vulgar, crude, or inappropriate questions if possible. Many companions will not engage with any digital correspondence that is explicit in nature, with the occasional exception that the information is absolutely pertinent to booking (And no, that does not mean that you should message her a variety of crude acronyms, innuendos, or euphemisms as an alternative to a certain word. It's more about the principle and potential risks than it is the semantics!)
Include all of the necessary appointment details. Including all of the info from the get-go about what you're looking for can make the booking process a breeze. Again, you should generally avoid asking for overly explicit requests, or for any particular services.
Here's a quick list of things to be sure to include:
If you want to book incall (which means she hosts) or outcall (which means you host)
How long of an appointment you'd like
the part of town where you're located (if asking for an outcall request)
Screening information (see below)
Be sure to include the necessary screening that is requested on the providers ads or website. Including this information in your initial message ensures that the provider has all of the information required to determine whether or not they want to move forward. It greatly helps to streamline the process, reduce response times, and to make your companion feel the most comfortable. Sending screening within your first message is a fantastic way to say, "Hey! I'm a real client who is safe to be around, and I'm serious about booking!".
(Side note, but the default Tryst message fill-in-the-blank is the bane of my existence, with a close second of "Avail now? HH? QV? Greek? Car Date? Babe? Sent From My iPhone")
Optional: Tell us about yourself! Many providers prefer getting to know who we're meeting in person rather than digitally, but that doesn't mean we don't want to know anything about you! Tell us about the hobbies you have, your interests, passions, etc. It helps to humanize the interaction and give us a little bit more insight on the person we're about to meet. Note: If you do include this, try to keep it as a brief ice breaker, rather than multiple paragraphs of an autobiography.
Screening: For Your Safety and Ours
Setting the Date and Sending a Deposit
What to Expect Before the Appointment
Judgment Day
Overall
While this list aims to be fairly comprehensive and extensive, it's important to read over the website and ads of the providers that you want to see, and to follow their booking procedures as requested. If you're uncomfortable following a provider's requested policies, you may have to seek out someone else that's better suited to your needs. It's also worth noting that this guide is written as means to guide you through the booking process for reputable, real, providers. Oftentimes, scam accounts, bots, and fake profiles will allow you to bypass these protocols, which can lead to a negative experience and distrust. While the screening and booking process looks unique to everyone (and some may very well exclude the things mentioned here!), it's more often than not a good sign that your provider takes both this work and her safety seriously.